Friendship is built over time. Friends go through a lot together and their relationship stands the test of time.
Over time, you learn who's loyal, who you can depend on when you're in a sticky situation, who will stand beside you and love you even when you're not perfect, and who understands you the most. You learn who is fun, who is sensitive, and what each other's triggers are.
You become extended members of each other's family. And you learn to be understanding when you're in a bind and a friend just doesn't have it to help at that time. You see each other's best and you see each other's worst, and you still love each other.
Most people jump into relationships and they just don't know the person that they're with. Their lust takes over, and by the time they learn that the person that they're with is not who they want it is usually too late. I don't want that.
I am not looking for a Prince charming. I don't need someone to rescue me from myself. I have spent the last five years getting to know who I am. I know my strengths and I know my weaknesses. And I know what I want out of life. I know more today than I knew in 2014, when I started this journey into being single and chaste.
I don't want someone who is going to try to change me. I like who I have become. I know what part of me needs to be changed and I doubt anyone else can make that judgment. I want someone who loves me like Jesus does: just as I am. Whatever changes need to be made is something we should be able to do together.
I want a best friend. Someone I know I can call on at a moment's notice, or in the middle of the night without reprisal and with utmost understanding. I want someone to be impulsive with, and have fun doing it! I want someone who will hug me when I need a hug and who will just hold my hand when I just need someone to be there. I want to be able to say what comes off the top of my head without thinking about it and feel comfortable that my friend is someone I can say it to. I want the freedom to be me all the way without reservation.
I want someone who wants to know every part of my life, someone that I can get to know, too!
I don't want to be somebody's second choice -- someone they're with because they can't be with the one they want to be. I want to be first in their heart. I want to be the one they think about when they're alone at night and it's just dragging by. I want to be the one they think about no matter what they do, because they just don't feel the same doing it with anyone else.
You can't have any of that without a good friendship as a base. It's impossible. I'm not a mail order bride, so relationships over the computer do not work for me and I'm not even going to try it. I want something tangible that I can touch, see, feel, hear their voice, smell their scent. I want real.
I want someone who's willing to sacrifice a part of their day just to call and say, "Hey, I'm thinking about you!" Or come by, even if it's only for 5 minutes, just to give me a hug. I want someone who, even when they don't have the time, thinks I'm worth making the time for.
I think in today's world of internet and technology, we have forgotten what friendship really is. It's not who you have on your friends list on Facebook. It's who you have in your life when the internet goes down.
In this day and age, all of that is nearly impossible; but I refuse to settle for less.
Over time, you learn who's loyal, who you can depend on when you're in a sticky situation, who will stand beside you and love you even when you're not perfect, and who understands you the most. You learn who is fun, who is sensitive, and what each other's triggers are.
You become extended members of each other's family. And you learn to be understanding when you're in a bind and a friend just doesn't have it to help at that time. You see each other's best and you see each other's worst, and you still love each other.
Most people jump into relationships and they just don't know the person that they're with. Their lust takes over, and by the time they learn that the person that they're with is not who they want it is usually too late. I don't want that.
I am not looking for a Prince charming. I don't need someone to rescue me from myself. I have spent the last five years getting to know who I am. I know my strengths and I know my weaknesses. And I know what I want out of life. I know more today than I knew in 2014, when I started this journey into being single and chaste.
I don't want someone who is going to try to change me. I like who I have become. I know what part of me needs to be changed and I doubt anyone else can make that judgment. I want someone who loves me like Jesus does: just as I am. Whatever changes need to be made is something we should be able to do together.
I want a best friend. Someone I know I can call on at a moment's notice, or in the middle of the night without reprisal and with utmost understanding. I want someone to be impulsive with, and have fun doing it! I want someone who will hug me when I need a hug and who will just hold my hand when I just need someone to be there. I want to be able to say what comes off the top of my head without thinking about it and feel comfortable that my friend is someone I can say it to. I want the freedom to be me all the way without reservation.
I want someone who wants to know every part of my life, someone that I can get to know, too!
I don't want to be somebody's second choice -- someone they're with because they can't be with the one they want to be. I want to be first in their heart. I want to be the one they think about when they're alone at night and it's just dragging by. I want to be the one they think about no matter what they do, because they just don't feel the same doing it with anyone else.
You can't have any of that without a good friendship as a base. It's impossible. I'm not a mail order bride, so relationships over the computer do not work for me and I'm not even going to try it. I want something tangible that I can touch, see, feel, hear their voice, smell their scent. I want real.
I want someone who's willing to sacrifice a part of their day just to call and say, "Hey, I'm thinking about you!" Or come by, even if it's only for 5 minutes, just to give me a hug. I want someone who, even when they don't have the time, thinks I'm worth making the time for.
I think in today's world of internet and technology, we have forgotten what friendship really is. It's not who you have on your friends list on Facebook. It's who you have in your life when the internet goes down.
In this day and age, all of that is nearly impossible; but I refuse to settle for less.
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