Chastity Vs. Lust

Jesus said that if you lust after someone then you've already committed adultery with them in your heart.

If that is true (which, if Jesus said it, I believe it, that settles it) then how do you keep from sinning? I don't believe it's possible.

I know for sure that if that is true, then it doesn't matter how many times I say "I haven't had sex in 5 years", I've had sex, never-the-less. LOL

So, I can't see how I am any better than I was before, when I was having sex -- I only feel "safer" now that I am not having sex physically.

But, even so, I realize that my vision has cleared up a lot. I'm able to see people for what's in their heart when sex is taken out of the equation. I can smell someone who wants to take advantage of me a mile away.

However, lust has it's own "blinders". It makes you want what you know you can't have. It makes you almost willing to do anything and compromise anything to get it.

I realize how really weak I am when I approach that animal. That cute furry critter who's name is "Lust" is most likely to bite me if I reach my hand out to pet him; but the temptation is so strong...

I know, at some point, I'm going to fall.

All I can do is ask for forgiveness for being human.

Staying Chaste

One of the things that I have experienced from being chaste is that when men finally realize that you are serious in your commitment to stay that way until a commitment with them is reached, they want to turn tail and run.

Most men in this day and age will only get married for two reasons: they either knocked you up or they want to own you.

They only sleep with you for one reason: they are horny.

I'm sorry but neither of those is reason enough for me to spread my legs.

I want a man who is emotionally invested. So if a man is emotionally unavailable, he might as well not even try.

And, it's going to take a lot more than words to prove how emotionally invested he is. So if he isn't willing to spend time with me, or to talk to me about personal and intimate issues, and he doesn't believe in the things that I believe in, and he doesn't like to do the things that I like to do or vice versa, then I am not interested and it will never happen. And, it takes time to get to know all of this about each other. So, jumping right in bed is not an option.

I have ended up with enough losers in my life. I want to make good and sure I'm not going to end up with someone who is a loser again.

One of the things I've learned since I made the decision not to spread my legs about 5 years ago, is that you start to see things with a much clearer vision. I have realized that God doesn't make laws in order to trip us up or make us feel guilty. He makes his laws for our protection.

So when some loser comes along, and he doesn't stand the test of time that it takes to build a relationship, I praise God that I had his rules to guide me.